Dealing With Loss during the Holidays
“I think I’ll call my mom and tell her …. oh, wait, I can’t call my mom. She passed away earlier this year.”
Are you experiencing some type of loss this holiday season? Do the holiday lights only serve to shine a spotlight on your loss of a loved one, a job, a pet? If so, you’re not alone. The holiday décor is a reminder to me too.
Grief and loss are normal parts of life. Unfortunately, that does not remove the pain that pierces our hearts and souls this time of year. Here are some tips for surviving the holidays:
If you don’t feel like decking your halls, don’t pressure yourself. If you’re a parent and feel the need to decorate, have the kids or other friends help out. Buy some new decorations that will build new memories.
Slow down and rest. Grief is like a program running behind the scenes on your computer. It can suck the energy out of you or at least slow you down. Acknowledge that grieving is hard work even if we’re not aware of it.
Add small pockets of time into your busy routine to soothe yourself. Whether that’s drinking your favorite hot cocoa or snuggling quietly under your favorite throw, capture those moments and soak them in.
Finally, find the extra support you need through safe family and friends. Add an extra Face time chat with them or ask if they can keep the kids for a couple of hours. People care about us more than we might realize.
The holiday season will soon pass. Stay focused on the bigger picture.
We got this!
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~~Diann Pomeroy is a Professional Counseling Intern here at NVision You. She is currently studying at Depaul University, and she is passionate about clients feeling seen, heard, and understood - possibly for the first time. She is currently accepting new clients. You can book an appointment, learn more about her services, and specialties here.
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